Mothers: Producers of Heroes

“…Mothers play a great role in building a generation. The better a mother is at raising her children, the more successfully the Ummah is built and the more successful it is at producing heroes. You hardly ever see a great man except that a great woman is behind him who left some of her traits in his personality by way of the milk from which he was fed and the warm embrace in which he sought refuge.

Most men find it hard to remove these shining images from their minds that they retain of their mothers. These outstanding images that ran through his veins from a young age remain engraved in his mind, and he cannot help but to remember them with veneration and pride. He recalls the simple, clear words that his mother left his spirit with, and these words grow to become milestones on his path and guiding lights on his quest.

He cannot help but to place himself under the vast shade that his mother provided for him throughout the long course of his life, nurtured by the pleasant emotions and mixed with the eternal days of his life. These realities grow in his spirit and become an inseparable part of his personality that he cannot let go of without letting go of his humanity.

This is why preserving this affection and repaying this kindness with kindness is an obligation in Islam that is directly partnered with Tawhid: {“…and your Lord ordained that you worship only Him, and that you treat your parents with excellence…”} [al-Isra’; 23] And disobedience to them is directly partnered with kufr.

Respect for mothers occupies a very high position on the ladder of Islam, and is very heavy in its scales. It is reported in the ‘Sahih’ that a man came to the Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه و سلم) and said: “O Messenger of Allah, who is most deserving of my kind treatment?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked again: “Then who?” He replied: “Your mother.” The man asked again: “Then who?” He replied: “Your father.”

I once said to Ibrahim al-Akhdar – the imam of the Haram in Makkah – “Why do you prevent your sweet voice from being heard by the Muslims who come from everywhere to hear it? How can you request to return to Madinah when some people say that hearing you recite the Qur’an is like hearing it descending fresh from the heavens?”

So, he replied: “My treasures in this world are my grandmother and mother, and I must fulfill my responsibilities to them and treat them well. Nobody can do this but me.”

I said: “Why don’t you bring your grandmother here?”

He said: “She refuses to leave Madinah out of fear that she might die outside of it, and her greatest wish is to be buried in the graveyard of al-Baqi’.”

And indeed, Ibrahim actually left the Haram in Makkah and went back to leading a small mosque in Madinah, sticking to the Paradise that is at the foot of his mother and grandmother…”

[‘Majallat al-Jihad’; #36, Rabi’ al-Awwal 1408]

21 Responses to “Mothers: Producers of Heroes”

  1. SubhanAllah!!

  2. Umm 'Atiyyah Says:

    This is excellent. JazaakumAllaahu khayran! May Allaah have mercy on Imam ‘Abdullaah ‘Azzam.

  3. Ameen

  4. a’UUdhu billaahi minash shayTaanir rajiim bismillaahir raHmaanir raHiym

    23. wa qaDaa rab-buka al-laa ta’Åbuduu il-laa iy-yaahu wa bil waalidayni iHsaanaa* im-maa yablugan-na ‘Indakal kibara aHaduhumaa aw kilaahumaa falaa taqul lahumaa uf-fiw wa laa tanharhumaa wa qul lahumaa qawlan kariymaa
    24. wakhfiD lahumaa janaaHadh dhul-li minar raHmati wa qur rab-birHamhumaa kamaa rab-bayaaniy Sagiyraa [al-Isra’; 23-24]

    Translation:
    23. And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.
    24. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.”

  5. As-salaamu ‘alaykum
    Does anyone know what happened with our sister Afia’s court trial yestarday?

  6. Umm Suraqah Says:

    wa3alaikum salam wara7matullahi wabarakatu

    She did not appear in court.According to the judge Sister Aafia refused the mandatory strip searches conducted when a prisoner is transported from prison to court.Because of this she didnt make an appearance at court.Her pre trial hearing is scheduled for September 29th @ 2pm and is subject to change.It is also not certain whether she will appear at the next hearing either as stated by the judge.

    pleae keep her in your duaas.

    feeamanillah

  7. جزاك ربي اعلى الجنان

  8. But wat do i do with a mother so arrogrant and supressing me every time….It is getting difficult to avoid conflicts.What should i do in order to rectify the situation.Please help

    • Allaah swt tells us to be humble and submissive towards our parents because they can develop these traits you say your mom has. This is due to the position of authority and responsibility they have over us. It’s not an easy position to be in, in fact, very stressful and sacrificing. I think most of us tend to forget that we are burdens on our parents, not the other way around. So what’s a little harsh treatment from them? I speak to myself first.

      Anyway, advice: paste the following Ayah on your wall; every time things get too difficult and conflicts arise, you can look at it, reflect and gain some Sabr and control inshaAllaah:

      “And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.'” {Al-Quraan 17:24}

      We tend to judge our parents’ the most harshly when they are the first ones whose faults we should try to overlook.

      Make dua for your mom that may Allaah swt soften her and mend your relationship.

      Take care.

    • Asalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

      May Allah help you and make it easy for you.

      Know that Allah tests His slaves in variety of ways. So for some it is easy to treat their parents well because their parents also treat them well. But for others, it can be a great test as their parents might oppress them and even take advantage of their authority.

      Allah says in Sural Al Furqaan, verse 20: “And We have made some of you as a trial for others: will you have patience? And your Lord is Ever All-Seer (of everything).”

      Even though, she may mistreat you, she still has rights upon you. You still have to give her her rights even if she does not give you yours. Allah will reward you for your patience and for your taqwa of Allah.

      You can find on islam-qa, many people who have the problem. An example : http://islam-qa.com/en/ref/84330

      And never underestimate the power of Dua. Allah is the Controller of the hearts. He can change any heart at any time when He wills. So ask Allah to soften your mother’s heart towards you and to guide her to a path pleasing to Allah.

      • salam…thankz a bunch….it was a relief to knw i can do smth pertaining to my situation…thanks once again…

  9. Masha Allah! JazakAllahu khair for sharing!

  10. steeds of war Says:

    Masha’Allah much hikma here Alhumduillah also in the answers to Haji comments may Allah bless you slaves of Allah and Jazakillah khayr for the reminders ameen

  11. the verse from al-isra on the fourth paragraph should be verse 23 not 32, if i’m not mistaken. must’ve been a typo.

    may Allah reward you for all these translations. barakallahu feek.

  12. Subhan’allah! and look at situations some muslims are in today? may Allah makes thsoe who are obedient to their parents.

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  14. Amazing… so inspiring. A good reminder.

  15. nimra farrukh Says:

    Can’t see the article it’s all blank :S

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