Living Together

“You cannot live alone. Do not live alone, as the wolf eats up the lone sheep, and Satan is close to the one who is alone and is farther from two who are together. So, if you live somewhere, live with at least one other person, and this one person should be righteous.

Friends are like a row of connected test tubes: if liquid overflows in one tube, the excess flows into the other tubes until there is an equal amount of liquid in all the tubes. Likewise, if you live with corrupt people, they will take away many of your good deeds, and you will decrease and decrease and decrease until you are all equal in status. You will definitely end up like these interconnected test tubes. A group of friends are all like each other, and the longer the friendship lasts, the closer the character and manners of each person in the group will be to the others. Do not believe that a good person can live for long with a corrupt person, unless the corrupt person improves and follows the example of the good person.

This is why you should look for the good people, and a friend is like a chain: he will either drag you into Paradise or drag you into Hell. He will either cause you problems or he will help you solve your problems…

After this, work on guarding your tongue, because most of the torture in Hell is because of the tongue: “And will people be dragged on their faces into Hell because of anything other than what their tongues have brought forth?”

After this, work on making good use of your time. Do not waste your time. Always try to bring about some benefit from your social gatherings. So, if you see people talking about food, drink, telling jokes, etc., tell them: ‘Guys, I read a story today to tell you about something that happened in Syria, or something that the Afghans did,’ or say: ‘What do you think about this hadith? I read the tafsir of this verse to tell you about,’ etc. Benefit them in this gathering, and occupy them with something that will benefit them. Sit down together and read the Qur’an, read the biographies of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه و سلم) and the Companions, a simple explanation of the Qur’an such as ‘Tafsir al-Jalalayn’ – a simple, general explanation – and read a simple book of Fiqh, especially regarding how to pray. Read the entire section on how to pray, such as ‘Fiqh as-Sunnah.’ Read in detail how to make wudu’, because it doesn’t make sense to sit for thirty years not knowing the proper way of making wudu’, performing prayer, etc. – you pray while not knowing the fundamentals of the prayer and wudu’, and you do not know the details of optional fasting, etc. So, do all of this combined with good friends and a pure, truthful intention.

And stay away from women (and likewise, women should apply the same for men), as this is the source of all tribulation for those at your age, and in fact for those at any age. Stay from women who are forbidden for you. It is an obligation for you to stay away from them. Of course, all of the women in this land are forbidden for you. It is forbidden for you to look at them, it is forbidden for you to sit with them, it is forbidden for you to chat with them, and it is forbidden for you to be alone with them. The heart cannot bear these things because the glance is one of Iblis’s poisonous arrows. Whoever lowers his gaze from what Allah has forbidden will be given a sweetness by Allah that he will feel in his heart. But to look, to continue looking, and to allow this arrow to strike you in the heart – not just an arrow, but a poisonous arrow that poisons your heart – to let an arrow strike you day after day after day, this will make your heart weak and unable to face the problems of life. This is why you find a person who is drowning in desires to be weak-hearted…As for the heart of the believer, his heart is strong and he isn’t affected by anything. His heart is strenghtened by worship, and therefore does not become scared or shaky. As for the heart of the sinner, you see it shaking. Why? Because the arrows have killed him just like someone who has an ulcer in his stomach and cannot eat because of it.

Work for Allah and stick together, and the more you work for Allah, the more your souls will become strong and rise, and you will ascend rapidly upon the path of those who are ascending towards Allah. I advise you to recite the Qur’an everyday, because the Qur’an is like water for a plant. It is the life of the heart, and the water and life for the heart is the Qur’an…”

[‘at-Tarbiyah al-Jihadiyyah wal-Bina”; 5/35-36]

29 Responses to “Living Together”

  1. As-salaamu’alaykum wa Rahmatu Llahi wa Barakatuh,

    Wonderful blog!! Tabarak’Allah.

    Jazak’Allahu khair for the beneficial post.

    Wa’alaykum as-salaam

  2. Umm Muadh Says:

    As’salamualaikum brother,
    Hope you are well inshaAllah. JazakAllah khair for this blog, its very educational and insightful. However, I was just wondering where has the index gone on your blog? You know, all of the names of the peoples work you had translated? it only has the archive and top posts (well, thats what appears on my page).
    JazakAllah Khair


  3. ‘Alayki as-Salam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh;

    Should be there now. It has been disappearing on and off lately for some reason.

  4. Umm Muadh Says:

    JazakAllah khair, the index is there now.
    I was wondering if you could help me inshaAllah. I’m currently going through various ideas for my dissertation and I shall inshaAllah be doing it on American domination or imperialism, (which ever term you prefer) and I think I may be basing this on the cultural/political aspect. I wanted to incorporate some of the great Islamic thinkers such as ibn Khaldun and the likes of him. My dissertation will be set along side globalisation and I would like to bring out that America or western culture/thought has not been the be all and end all as there was something greater in place before it that really developed people/countries/societies etc to their potential, which of course was Islam.
    I have a copy of the Muqaddimah, the 1960’s translation in English by Franz Rosenthal (is there any better translation of this or a summery?). I know there is a lot of stuff out there on the net and all but I was hoping if you know of any specific social science books by Muslims that could or would help me in my work inshaAllah or even non Muslims. I hope I made sense inshaAllah. I do apologise for any confusion caused.

    JazakAllah khair for your time.
    As’salamualaikum warahmatullah.

  5. assalaamu alaikum ya akhi habib

    without having ever met you, know that you have a brother in south africa who loves you for Allah
    may Allah accept your wonderful efforts in assisting in the education and revival of muslims via the internet

    jazakallaah khair

  6. As Salaam Alaikum, I would like to ask a question. It’s for Abu Subaya You translated the works of Sheikh Rslan. Did you study with the Sheikh? If so where was it in Egypt?

    Barakallah Feek

  7. ‘Alayki as-Salam wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh;

    No, I did not study with him.

  8. As Salaam Alaikum, I asked because I just recently came to know of Him. He has opened a Mahad. May I ask where did you find the book?

  9. asalaam alaikum

    sister um muadh, i have a list of links on islamic history [with its advances in sciences] in my blog which u may find beneficial insha Allah.

  10. Its been sometimes since I came here. It was beneficial then and it is still. May Allaah bless you with goodness.

  11. A word standing once told me

    Success is not in never falling but in rising every time you fall

  12. keep the brother in your dua, inshaa’Allah.

  13. Cyril_Lucar Says:

    All of that high-sounding language about guarding your tongue sounds pretty hollow and hypocritical knowing that you went to jail for lying under oath and promoted jihad in Somalia. How can your faith have anything at all to do with peace when you support people going to an impoverished, war-torn, living nightmare like Somalia and creating more bloodshed? I wonder what all your language about women really means? I wonder if it means that your really FEAR women and support the systems that ABUSE them. I read recently that a sharia court in Somalia (something that you support) recently EXECUTED a 13 year old girl for adultery after she was raped.

    God hates your lies and violence.

    “In as much as you did it to the least of these…you did it to me.” Issa, Matthew 25

  14. It is clear that it is not the media that will show us where the sun is rising nor what the dogs are eating.

    They choose and frame in a way to suit what they propagate. Our religion tells us:

    ” O ye who believe! If a wicked person comes to you with any news, ascertain the truth, lest ye harm people unwittingly, and afterwards become full of repentance for what ye have done. ” Q49:6

  15. muhammad "sheikh albaani" Says:

    i can’t think of a better brother that i know, he is one of my favorite people in the world, be wary of the nonsense you read.

    remember him in your du’ah and may Allah free him from the prisons of the kuffar

  16. muhammad "sheikh albaani" Says:

    “…So a wall will be put up between them with a gate therein. Inside it will be mercy, and from the outside, it will be torment.” [al-Hadid; 13]

  17. Are we Serious? Says:

    Ok gents,

    I see that there are some pretty intelligent folks bantering back and forth here about some pretty serious beliefs. It is absolutely mind boggling that we (being both sides of this apparent debate), without any tangible empirical evidence of a supreme being, are producing such strong ideas… The words written on this page and the many like it are exactly what people need to believe in something outside of their understanding…. How can we believe what is written? Logically who wrote the words in red? Inshallah or God willing are we not all just believing in a maker of the world and the universe that is around us? You guys are so wrapped up in the Quran or the Bible we don’t see each other as what we are… Put a Christian and a Muslim on a desert Island and have them have to work together for life; is this only a temporary thing or will one eventually own the other? If someone’s religion is telling them to control or kill the other… Let’s be real. God is telling us to do this??? Sounds like a man who found a way to conquer the ignorant world… If we need to believe, can we not believe in each other?? It takes a truly intelligent person to believe that they control their destiny…

    Even if there are unjust actions in this physical world, it is because we as humans have failed… If we do believe in a power that created the whole, then we must believe that one of the greatest gifts that he has given us is choice… Don’t just believe because it is what you are told… Believe in what is right, because it is right, and truly you will be righteous…

    If we are to believe in something that was constructed a couple thousand years ago, then can’t we believe in what is here now??

    This is the ranting of concerned human; don’t take your self so seriously. Just is just, we will all find the truth in the end. Give me the empirical proof and I’ll follow you the ends of the Earth…

    Peace out Homies, don’t let the black man hold you down!! ahahahah, a little southern humor…

    Seriously, don’t forget that we are all in this together…

  18. Slave of Allah Says:

    Ya Allah free your slave

  19. Umm Kawther Says:


  20. Allahumma Ameen.

  21. "Imam Ahmed" Says:

    How can a man make assumptions about another man? How do you know what this man has done and how can you call him a hypocrite. I understand that people have the freedom of speech but why attack a man when he cant defend himself. I know this man and he acts upon what he says. he is not a hypocrite and he cares about others. I love this man dearly and hope you all do too. he stood up for people in need and now i think we should stand up for he is in need. He needs our dua’.

    –May Allah forgive his sins.

  22. Ameen. amazing brother, mashaAllaah, from whom many people have benefitted immensely from. Let people guard their tongues…

  23. "Imam Ahmed" Says:

    May Allah forgive all of our sins and may our tongues bring us to heaven and not to hellfire. As 3a said guard your tongue and repent for your sins.
    May Allah give us a shade when there is no shade (Day of Resurrection) for loving another brother for the sake of Allah!

  24. Are we Serious? Says:

    I was wondering how my last post went over with you guys. I see your friend is still locked up; hopefully, if he is righteous, you will find him in your arms again.
    Nobody answered or responded to my last post. I would like to understand these issues better.

  25. "Imam Ahmed" Says:

    What do you mean by issues? the issues of religion or the issues of the man?

  26. Are we serious! I understand where you are coming from… An Atheist?
    You might like to have a ride since I see you want to understand the issues better:

    MAy Allah release our dear brother ..Ameen

  27. zanzabeel Says:

    Sabhan Allah Ive never found fault with anything our beloved Sheikh Azzam Rahimullah has said or written but from a muslim womans view some men can be very careless and weak and cause a pious woman grief , so brothers unless you really do intend to marry muslim women then stay the heck away from them
    and to the atheist your the ignoramious your not an intellectual for true intelligence lies is a humble slave that sacrifices all to obtain the Pleasure of his Gracious Creator
    May we all join the Caravan of the Martyres

  28. zanzabeel Says:

    Alhumduillah I just re read this post and there is much hikma which applies to woman too , it all comes down to Taqwa of Allah
    Allah loves the strong believer more than the weak believer , a weak believer is more prone to cause fitna also one should become strong with Ilm not always the case but usually the norm Ilm can prevent us from slipping
    Jazakillah Khayr I don’t have a clue who you are ukhi but I reconise your work and its benefical .
    Allah protect you to do more

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