How to Respect Your Elders
Because of this, I wish that we and our youth would read the fatawa. Whatever Ibn Taymiyyah says, we accept. Ibn Taymiyyah is the Shaykh of the Salafiyyin; we accept whatever he says. Ibn Taymiyyah says: “It is allowed to stand up out of respect for those who are people of position and righteousness.” Likewise, an-Nawawi wrote a book on this topic, titled ‘at-Tarkhis bil-Qiyam,’ (The Allowance of Standing) which is a full book in which he brought many authentic ahadith, and said that this is what such-and-such scholars agreed on – including Ahmad bin Hambal and Malik – that they would stand up in such situations.
So, gatherings require an attitude of respect. One of our brothers said to me: “I never in my life relaxed in the presence of my father, because I consider this to be bad manners in respecting the parents. If he would order me to do something, or speak to me about anything, I would stand between his hands until he would finish what he wanted to say. Then, I would wait either for he or my mother to allow me to leave.”
Manners! O Allah, teach us manners!”
[‘Fi Dhilal Surat at-Tawbah’; p. 79]